Questions Women Ask

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Women often take me aside out of ear shot of the husbands. They always seem to ask me the same questions:

They also want to know what I think of blue water sailing. They worry about safety and long voyages and everyone asks about pirates. The next question all women ask me is about actually living on a boat as opposed to visiting it on weekends. And finally, the big question, what are you going to do with your stuff.

Living on the boat full time: I think any space no matter how big or how small can get very cramped. Ok, claustrophobic. People need space and definitely need alone time once in awhile. I hear of friends who retire talk about the life style change of both people being retire and living at home together, all the time. It is a change in life style. While some people move to smaller homes, different cities, buy an RV or just live together in the same house full time, it is a change. It takes time to find the right rhythm for you both. That first year can be tough. There is so much to learn. There are learning curves to anything that is new.

I have spent many an afternoon in marina laundry rooms consoling first or second year cruising ladies. It takes time but the effort is very much worth it. And, it does get easier.

What to do with your stuff:  You might think this is the easiest question but it is actually pretty hard. One day walk around your house, take a look at everything you own. Include the garage, any basement or attic. Open drawers and cabinets full of mementos and hard earned items and think,” would all this fit into 53 feet?” Nope.

Then remember that the boat comes with all it’s own baggage. And, I do mean baggage. There are bits and parts and tools and safety gear and more bits and more tools and more stuff than you can imagine. Once you add food and clothes there is not much room left for photos of Auntie Mary or the kid’s photo albums, and what about Grandma’s antique tables? Thus begins the search for safe harbors for our treasures. So for me the hardest question is where to put our stuff.

I’ve seen episodes of “Storage Wars” and have visions of tuning in from some satellite feed in another part of the world just to see my stuff being picked through on national TV. Not being just down the street we cannot go check on our stuff. If something should happen to the owner or company we might not be able to fly back to get our things.

There are sentimental things that we do not want to see a stranger carry off or fifty cents at a garage sale. First we have to decide what items we cannot part with and absolutely have to keep.  Then we have to decide if what we have left worth the price of storage for 4-6 years?

Blue water sailing: 25 years ago when we started our plan to retire early there was not an internet. There were sailing books and magazines that quite honestly scared the bejeebers out of me. All of the stories started with, “It was a dark and stormy night” and ended with “Once we got into the life raft….”. OMG, right?  So I stopped reading sailing stuff. To this I say, thank goodness for the internet.

We’ve followed quite a few people and their blogs. Some we’ve followed for years. A few we’ve written to and have come to know. We read about cruisers who live a comfortable lifestyle and get to enjoy the benefits of traveling on a boat. They are on a budget but they can still enjoy the fruits of their years of hard work. That is what I needed to hear.  They are having fun.

Many are much like us. They are responsible, careful sailors. They put safety first. We did our research and bought the safest boat we could afford. Mark read on one cruisers blog that if there was a safety devise available that made sense, he’d get it. We sort of follow same sort of philosophy. Safety first, fun second.

How long will you go for? I read that the average cruising time is between 4-6 years. After that people want to stop and put down roots. I don’t know how long we will want to cruise. We just add six months at a time. It is easier to bite off six months on bad days then to say ten years (or forever).

The emotional side:  There are a lot of emotions that go with this big step. It is an upheaval of your life. You are leaving a comfort zone for something unknown. You will be leaving friends and family and a set way of life. It is exciting and scary all in one. The best way that comes to mind is the emotions ebb and flow.

I think any retirement that people plan which will take them away on a boat, RV or moving to another city, state or country will have the same type of emotions. I have always believed that some of the best things in life came because I left my comfort zone. Nothing worthwhile has come easy and most times the adventure out weighted everything else.

What people on land never seem to say but is the one thing I hear from cruisers is this:  Just go. Have a good time. Life is short. If you go for a year, six months or six years, it does not matter how long you go–just go. Give it a try for as long as you can afford it, tolerate it or love it. And, don’t let anyone give you grief if it does not work out as planned. At least you try. I don’t want to look back and regret not trying while I had the chance. How many other people get this wonderful opportunity?

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